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As the go-to girl for relationship and dating advice, this real life Carrie Bradshaw and editor at "Essence "magazine shares the what-to-dos and what-not-to-dos for fabulous single living. With an award-winning popular blog and an "Essence "magazine platform, Demetria Lucas has become a relationship guru to millions of young women with plenty of simple, direct advice. AccoAs the go-to girl for relationship and dating advice, this real life Carrie Bradshaw and editor at "Essence "magazine shares the what-to-dos and what-not-to-dos for fabulous single living. With an award-winning popular blog and an "Essence "magazine platform, Demetria Lucas has become a relationship guru to millions of young women with plenty of simple, direct advice. According to Lucas, most women are too focused (and stressed) on the difficulties of meeting Mr. Right to enjoy the experience."A Belle in Brooklyn "celebrates the joys of singlehood, encourages personal development, and offers tools to help women increase their odds of finding a suitable mate when they are ready for one. With advice garnered from personal revelations, expert interviews with other relationship and dating gurus, and hundreds of interviews with her Male MindSquad--a committee of thirty men from varying backgrounds who answers the tough questions about sex, dating, and relationships--Lucas helps women enjoy the single life...with or without the perfect guy....

Title : A Belle in Brooklyn: Advice for Living Your Single Life and Enjoying Mr. Right Now
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ISBN : 9781451606317
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Number of Pages : 336 Pages
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A Belle in Brooklyn: Advice for Living Your Single Life and Enjoying Mr. Right Now Reviews

  • Regina
    2019-03-31 23:13

    I always, ALWAYS try and keep an open mind when reading. I also try and keep an open mind in terms of the differences and similarities of married and single lives. I try and read lots of books on dating and single life, because they truly benefit relationships as a whole, and not just new ones. With all that being said, this book was a perfect fit for me. First of all, I have to admit that what I enjoyed most about Ms. Lucas' Ms. Lucas. I may not agree with each and every philosophy or idea she presents, but I am greatly impressed and supportive of her reasoning behind them (if that makes sense). Her blues aren't like mine: I was married for most of my twenties while she explored singlehood and what it had to offer, but she is a thinker. And as a thinker, I feel on some level we are kindred spirits.Demetria's blog and my own were both up for Black Weblog awards in 2010, (two different categories), and that was how I first found her writing. She was funny and practical, things I value very much. I visited a few times and soon began to think, as another reviewer said, that she did seem to be somewhat of a real Carrie Bradshaw. As I read this book, however, I found her to be much more than that. This book is what SHOULD have been getting women motivated to date smarter, not that tripe rag Steve Harvey put out. A self aware woman is a gem. They can recount events and people with enough detail to give you the lesson learned, but not the bitterness or regrets. These short vignettes into Belle's dating twenties, were done in such a way that I never once felt anger or even more than heavy frustration for her male counterparts. She told what went down, how she took it, and where things left off. Quick and to the point without the b.s. found in most single women books. This was not the book that would have you "exhaling" in a Terry McMillan fashion. Men were men, not enemies. Women were women. Not lovesick fools.One other thing that I think all women (or men) should take from this book is that dating is dating. It is not a means to an end. The good times, good meals, or good friends you gain from dating are not equivalent to failures if they don't result in wedding bells. This book was not at all about being single or being in a relationship, despite the title or the description. This book was about being self-reliant, self-aware, and intrinsically motivated.I enjoyed it thoroughly.

  • Tawanda
    2019-04-02 22:40

    Despite being a subscriber to the author's blog for over two years, I was a little weary to pick this book up. I'm not big on "advice" books or paying jacket price for books. That all changed after reading the teaser on iTunes. I LOVED this book. It's more of a coming of age story with good solid advice. I even had a small "a-ha" moment. If you're a upwardly mobile, black single girl living in or near a large metropolitan city, you're going to find yourself both laughing with and empathizing with Demetria Lucas.

  • M.C. Walker
    2019-04-04 17:16

    This is the best relationship book I have ever read. The writers voice is young, refreshingly honest, and relateable. I could not put this book down. I really enjoyed taling the journey with the writer as she chased her dreams, discovered herself, and hoped for love. Demetria is real life black woman Carrie Bradshaw, u got to read this book with your girlfriends and save it for your daughters. :)

  • Maiah
    2019-03-30 17:18

    I consider myself a rare breed. I’m an African American twenty-something woman who grew up in the suburbs of Boston. Though I currently live in NYC, my roots (no matter how bougie I may have become) are what made me, and I hold tight to those.In looking for things to relate to, I found there was a wide gap between Sex & the City and Girlfriends. This gap also exists between Teri McMillian and Jeannette Walls. I was searching for someone like me represented in media and she was nowhere to be found....Until my friend introduced me to Demetria Lucas. The blogger turned magazine editor turned author recently released A Belle in Brooklyn (of the same title as her award winning blog). Incredibly well written, this memoir takes you on a journey of Demetria’s life and experiences in NYC, Atlanta, California, and more. With each chapter reading like the beautiful prose found in some short stories, you can’t help but power through the book. As a person who prefers to read during her commute, I found myself laughing at her humor, nearly crying at her experiences, and often cringing at her honesty. Any book that results in that sort of real-life emoting is what I would categorize as a great read.Recommended for every-woman (and every-man), I think it’s impossible for anyone not to gather some sort of great takeaway from this novel. If you’re looking to live vicariously through the chapters of her crazy single life attending industry parties and awkward dinners with Shug: you win. If you’re looking for life lessons on how to “Live Your Best Singe Life”: you win. If you, like me, are looking for a middle ground media figure to relate to: you win.But most importantly, I'm realizing how necessary it is to surround yourself with successful role models constantly on their grind. Demetria has made her journey extremely accessible to those searching for that too. So you also win.A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to-Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life is available in stores and online.Article first published as Book Review: A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life by Demetria Lucason Blogcritics. Also published on my blog,Writing with Wine.

  • Sheronda
    2019-04-03 16:25

    LOVED it! This is the book "Bitch is the new Black" aspires to be. Demetria (30+) reflects on her life as a twenty-something and what could have easily evolved into a nauseating "self-help" book is instead a charming, witty collection of stories. The author shares several aspects of her life including love, career, triumphs and pitfalls all while navigating through the crazy place that is NYC. All women can relate to at least one storyline in this book and I greatly recommend.

  • Shakira
    2019-03-20 21:23

    I thought this book was very entertaining and offered some life lessons that you can incorporate in your own life or even cause you to think about relationships and interactions differently. It also offers some tips as well.

  • Deuce Bigelow
    2019-03-26 19:18

    It wasn't at all what it presented itself to be but it was still a decent, easy read. I think it's pretty crazy that she's a "relationship expert" for Essence magazine though. Girlfriend has some serious issues.

  • Jareesa
    2019-04-11 21:24

    I enjoyed this book, but to me it reads like a memoir, not a guide on how-to maximize your single life. I love Belle's writing and storytelling, but if you're looking for dating instructions, dont pick up this book. Read this book if you want to read witty, entertaining writing.

  • Reecee Rae
    2019-03-29 22:15

    it was a nice book. wasn't what I was expecting but a good read

  • Jessica Washington
    2019-03-28 18:27

    Ok, I will preface this review with stating the fact that I don't read nonfiction books in my downtime. I definitely do not read relationship books. But, since I love Essence magazine so much, I thought that a relationship book written by a black woman and the Essence relationships writer would be a great choice. I also need to let you know that I am obsessed with the state of Black America and all of the relationship info and media about black people in relationships, especially black women. I thought this would be a knock out book, but I was a little disappointed.The book is of course from the writer, Demetria Lucas' point of view, I expected that. What I did not expect was for her to go through nearly every relationship that she had and explain that the reason why she quit all of these dudes was because she was happy being single. Well if you like being single so much, why are you writing a relationship book. Granted, I chose to read the book, not only because I was curious, but also because I wanted some single girl relationship advice. Well, I guess I got what I wanted. All I'm saying is that, in my personal opinion, I was disappointed with the 'advice' she gave, but it was interesting reading about all of her dating escapades.

  • MeMe Willz
    2019-03-23 23:13

    I was very excited about reading this book and even more excited when I read the great reviews by mostly everyone on here. However, I was highly disappointed when reading and after. I felt like I read different short stories of an individual and to make matters worst there was no coherent flow. The reader mainly spoke about her experiences and not offering that much advice to empower women. Okay we get it you wanted to live up and you live up.. But what did you learn from this that you would want to share and empower with other women. I was not looking for a how to or a self-book but more looking for a book from a woman who had similar experiences with me and what it is that she learnt from those experiences that she would like to share. It felt like the good times only were spoken about ... Like there was nothing major to grow from. Maybe I had too many expectations coming in and although it was not good for me it might be exceptional for some other people! So don't' take my word for it but experience for yourself and let me know what you think.

  • Shamekia
    2019-03-20 21:25

    I give this book and F! Fast, Fun, and Fabulous! It totally confirmed that all of my fantasies of living it up in the big city are possible if only I weren't too cheap to move to NYC. Parties, upon parties, cute shoes and sexy men? Sign me up!This book met my long awaited desire for 'black girl chick lit'. I read a lot of chick lit...A LOT. I love a lighthearted and entertaining read (or movie). And while I have no problem with a young white lead character I do wish that there were more options within African American fiction (yes I know the book isn't fiction, but still)without the raunch and/or woe that I typically find in Af-Am books targeted towards women. This book did it for me! I laughed out loud and couldn't put it down. It was engaging, fast-paced, sexy (not raunchy), upbeat and positive, and had some nuggets of wisdomDemetria Lucas is a great writer and I hope that she continues to publish books that speak to my inner sex and the city/young professional black gyrl soul. I will definitely look out for more titles (hopefully some fiction) from her in the future.

  • Shanae
    2019-03-23 16:22

    I thoroughly enjoyed this book and wish I could give it like 4.5 stars (I'm taking half a star off because I didn't like the ending or the way she did Greg lol). I read it as an advice book based on Lucas's experiences (all of which I'd love to have, I'm completely jealous of her lol). Unfortunately, the book was not so much about enjoying your single life or enjoying Mr. Right Now. Lucas never seemed to enjoy being single and she never seemed to really enjoy any of her Mr. Right Nows, though she writes all about I should and I think her advice is right. As someone who's looking to get back into the dating pool, I will definitely keep Lucas's "advice" in my mind...she's on point and I think this is a result of her friendships with men, not her relationships with men or her work as a writer. I think every young Black woman should read this book. It's very entertaining, funny, and worth the's quite hard to find all of that in a relationships/self-help book, but Lucas does it.

  • Christina
    2019-04-17 17:18

    I have been following Demetria's work in Essence and I love it! It was only natural that I read her book and it was AMAZING!! At last, I finally get the whole "Sex and The City" craze! I was able to see myself, my sister, my best friends and a few Facebook updates right on the pages of her book. Like many women who aspire to live the fab life of a Manhattan socialite, I have lusted after Brooklyn for as long as I can remember! Soo exciting to have my very own Demetria ( I read she's not too fond of the Black Carrie Bradshaw reference, but it is dead on!). Definitely a must read for any single black professional woman. Regardless of age, this book is very very relatable!

  • Latiffany
    2019-03-21 16:29

    I didn't like or even enjoy this book. I finished it because I don't like to leave things incomplete. I appreciated how the author spent her twenties chasing her dreams and dating, rather than settling as many women tend to do. Other than that, the book offered little else. It was simply pages and pages of her chronicling her mild dating experiences. Other than a short guest appearance by Suge Knight, her story is pretty bland.

  • Eunita
    2019-03-24 16:37

    "Belle in Brooklyn" offers a fresh, new perspective on dating.Instead of providing a list of Do's and Dont's, "A Belle in Brooklyn" is more of a "coming of age" story about a woman in her 30's. She takes us on a journey from naivete to self-awareness and self-love. I appreciate the inclusion of males' perspectives also to present well-rounded ideals. Demetria comes off as personable, and readers can relate to her experiences. I would love to her more from Ms. Lucas!

  • B. Jones
    2019-04-03 22:26

    I bought this book because I love the relationship Demetria Lucas gave out through thousands online through her blog and other sources. Although the book really seems more like a set of short stories through out her life, it does offer some relationship and life advice. It's probably a book best suited for women with careers and living in big cities with lots of things to do. I'll probably be rereading it in the near future.

  • Devoynne
    2019-03-21 21:40

    fun, light, casual read. at first, i thought Demetria to be pretentious, and was glad i borrowed this book from the library instead of purchasing it. however, she later showed some vulnerability which kept me reading. this book was definitely better than i expected and the stories made me laugh, say, "yes, girl" out loud, and gave me new cuisine for thought. considering adding it to my library. #notwastingmypretty

  • Maya Hollinshead
    2019-03-26 00:23

    A great collection of short stories about Demetria's dating life, with some advice sprinkled along the way. My favorite short story was about her trip to LA, where she encountered a notorious music executive and a then up-and-coming NBA star (who gave her some wonderful advice). Great for those who are navigating their own adventures in dating.

  • ShaRhonda
    2019-04-20 21:28

    A Belle in Brooklyn is funny, insightful and at some parts quite funny. For any of us who have had aspirations of heading to NYC to not only experience the thrive of the city, but to pursue our passions of fun and men, this book is a excellent read for that. It's also a great little dating 101 guide!

  • Mel
    2019-03-26 19:40

    I read Demetria Lucas's blog of the same name. I find her funny and insightful. I didn't consider this advice per se. Although you could learn from her mistakes (as I am sure she did). I don't necessarily believe in getting dating advice from books. I'm sure most would agree trial and error is the way to go... That being said, I saw this book as a dating autobiography. I could commiserate.

  • Latarshia Mercer
    2019-04-06 17:10

    Amazing read! I thoroughly enjoyed and needed this gem! My only wish is that this guidebook was written earlier, so that I had the opportunity to benefit from these findings-life lessons in my early 20's. This book will be my gift to all younger nieces, cousins and friends, alike.

  • Amber Nofetari
    2019-04-18 17:28

    Long story short this book was awesome; a very juicy read. Lucas did a great job of recalling her relationships and experiences moving from a small town to the big city. This book is perfect for the young career girl trying to find love.

  • Cheryl
    2019-04-10 20:31

    I really enjoyed this book. I didnt take it to be an advice book but moreso her adventures in dating and what she has learned thus far. Some of the lessons she has learned hit home for me. Especially the one, just because he is a great guy doesn't mean he is great for you.

  • Nakia
    2019-04-19 23:31

    She’s no Carrie Bradshaw, but she has lived an interesting life with a few hilarious dating mishaps and adventures that most sociable Black women may... (check out for full review)

  • Cherisse L.
    2019-04-04 17:37

    I finally finished this book. I had been reading it on and off between my other fiction library books since I own this one. really enjoyed the last few chapters. great story, with sprinkles of advice inside.

  • Kelley
    2019-04-05 17:26

    The book's hilarious. She can be superficial and a bit vain at times when talking about her lifestyle, but the book is definitely worth the read. At the end of the day she's telling women to respect themselves, be open (and safe) when experiencing new things, and have fun. I loved it.

  • Pamela Sarratt
    2019-04-09 17:40

    I'm a fan of her daily blog; however, I'm not big on self-help books so I was a little nervous about reading this but I was happily surprised and entertained! This is definitely not your typical self-help/advise book. Great read!

  • thecatchmeifyoucan
    2019-04-17 18:19

    This book was a quick, light and enjoyable read. I could relate very well to a lot of the stories as I think most of my girlfriends would. If you are looking for a beach read I think this is a great choice.

  • Lola
    2019-03-29 23:31

    Good read; well written. I just didn't feel like I was in the place in my life to read it yet though. It didn't have that much effect on me like I wanted it to have. That's why I gave it a lower rating, but it was in all a good read.