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How do you get rid of unwanted guests? What do you do if there's a racket in the quiet carriage? How should you eat peas, and behave in queues? How to behave, like how to punctuate, is an aspect of life that many are no longer taught - and getting it wrong is the stuff of comedy at best and humiliation at worst. Thankfully, Sandi Toksvig has come to the rescue with her entHow do you get rid of unwanted guests? What do you do if there's a racket in the quiet carriage? How should you eat peas, and behave in queues? How to behave, like how to punctuate, is an aspect of life that many are no longer taught - and getting it wrong is the stuff of comedy at best and humiliation at worst. Thankfully, Sandi Toksvig has come to the rescue with her entertaining guide to modern manners, with tips on what to do whether you're talking to a bore, or forgot their name in the first place. (Just call them 'darling'.)The award-winning Radio 4 broadcaster and writer offers guidance on the social pitfalls of every phase of life, from christenings to condolence letters. With characteristic wit and perceptiveness, and revealing the trickiest of her encounters along the way, she highlights decency rather than convention and provides an essential guide to twenty-first century behaviour....

Title : Peas & Queues: The Minefield of Modern Manners
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ISBN : 9781781250327
Format Type : Hardcover
Number of Pages : 262 Pages
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Peas & Queues: The Minefield of Modern Manners Reviews

  • Faith Spinks
    2019-05-16 08:31

    I'm considering starting a new book shelf titled "whatever possessed me!" with this one first to join it. I thought this book might be an amusing look at the things we take as good manners and where they stem from. I was wrong... it was not! I was disappointed and bored throughout. Why I did not give up earlier I am not sure, but by the time I'd reached the latter stage of the book I was determined to finish it. I only managed this by already choosing my next book as something I really wanted to get on to.Would not recommend to anyone ...unless you are looking for something to bore and irritate you that is!

  • BrokenTune
    2019-05-12 13:18

    Review first posted on BookLikes:, I try to start my reviews with a quote that I think encapsulates what either what the book is about, or the mood, or something else that strikes me about the book.I was having a hard time to find a quote from Peas & Queues that would encapsulate any of this.When I went out for breakfast with a friend on Sunday, he - who likes Sandi Toksvig when she's on tv - asked me what the book was about, and for the first time in ages, I was actually stunned and unable to form a coherent thought that would describe my impressions of the book. Granted, I had only had one sip of my first cup of coffee - but usually I find it easy enough to talk about books.So, having had the benefit of a few days' reflection, I think my main problem with the Peas & Queues is that I have no idea what the book is about:In the preface it is explained that the book is aimed at the author's niece as a guide to modern manners and general advice. Then book starts off giving a background to manners and social conventions that became what is now known under the label of "manners". That part of the book is quite interesting - and the examples chosen from history are quite funny.The subsequent chapters of the book are then devoted to different real life situations - living with other people, eating out, being invited, etc. And this is where the book loses the plot a little; where the descriptions become quite common sense, quite "uninteresting", for want of a better word. Also, there are fewer examples of famous incidents. All in all, the further into the book I advanced, the more it read like writing the book had become a task that had to be completed, but really, the author lost interest in it, too.Or, maybe it is just me; maybe I just don't give a monkey's about manners.

  • Ana Rînceanu
    2019-05-07 10:17

    This is a book about modern manners/etiquette for a 21-century average person. Which means that it needs Sandi Toksvig's lovely dry sense of humor. If you get this in audiobook format you won't regret it. It was great! What I did was get a bundle: I got the ebook from Amazon which gave me a discount on the audiobook. I had a chance to annotate on the ebook while listening to Sandi Toksvig while she imparted wisdom about forks and their origin.That's another thing I liked about this book, you get the information you need to survive in any social situation and, as a bonus, a little bit of history. I hope I never forget the Top C's of Manners: Consideration, Common sense, Context, Comfort.

  • Nikki
    2019-05-02 08:33

    I'm not sure what other people were expecting with this: luckily, I approached it for exactly what it is, a book which offers advice on all sorts of situations and how to navigate them with dignity and politeness. Sort of like Captain Awkward, but more formal, and less tailored to a specific individual or situation. It contains all sorts of advice from dealing with family life to what to do at weddings and funerals.It even touches on some etiquette that seems obvious when you hear it, but which people genuinely do miss. Like asking a lesbian couple about their sex life and which of them is the man -- just don't. If you wouldn't ask the question of a straight couple, don't ask it of a gay couple. A lot of Toksvig's advice boils down to not putting other people in awkward situations (e.g. like public proposals where there's an obligation to say yes or look ridiculous) and respecting other people's privacy.Pretty solid. And it's sometimes interesting, sometimes funny, sometimes useful -- and sometimes, as all generalisations are, not useful. At least Toksvig acknowledges -- repeatedly -- the importance of context rather than a rigid set of rules.

  • DebsD
    2019-04-28 06:20

    The introduction to this is excellent; several lines made me laugh out loud. The bulk of the book, however, is - well, it's an etiquette guide. In fairness, it doesn't pretend to be anything else, and it is presented with Toksvig's usual clever dry wit. I suspect if anyone was going to write an entertaining book about protocol and good behaviour, it would be her, but I suspect there's a fairly low limit for how much of a page-turner any guide to manners can be.

  • Tracey
    2019-05-11 12:32

    I know the author from her work on radio and the 'voice' of this book was destinctly hers. I'm sure many will say that this covers what is only common sense, but if that were true they possibly wouldn't be so commonly disregarded. Manners make life easier for everyone; if we grasp that we can make life a little happier for ourselves and those around us.

  • Aimee
    2019-05-18 11:28

    DNF at 26%I love Sandi Toksvig. Just want to get that out the way first.I thought this would be an interesting and quirky book about the history of formal manners, how they developed and whether they are relevant to the modern age etc. Instead it's just a list of instructions that are either obvious (don't be rude to your waiter, it's rude to check your phone at the table) or unlikely to come up in most people's life unless you are attending some really fancy parties (e.g. how to use a finger bowl).There are occasional anecdotes from Sandi, and stories of Louis XIV's dinner parties, but these are too few and far between, so I didn't feel any desire to wade through the last 200-odd pages.

  • Sunil
    2019-05-03 13:32

    Okay, mind the gap, don't jump the queue, clean up after yourself, change the toilet rolls, don't steal others' milk or cookies and I don't know what else...maybe don't try to invade Russia during winter? I don't really know why adults have to read this book?

  • Gary Leach
    2019-04-27 06:23

    Tedious, dull, dreary, unfunny. That enough warning? :) Don't bother reading in other words.

  • Caroline Cormack
    2019-05-24 14:26

    Delightfully entertaining and educational read, even if your manners are already impeccable.

  • Ruth Brumby
    2019-05-18 10:31

    This seems a bit like a book designed to be sold as a Christmas present, but I think Sandi Toksvig may have taken it rather seriously. It is full of interesting facts and humorous anecdotes, but I think there is a flaw with the basic premise: if you needed the information on courtesy you probably wouldn't read the book. I quite enjoyed it, but wouldn't particularly recommend it.... Quite a few 'but's!

  • Tracey Mooney
    2019-05-03 06:35

    Listened to the unabridged audio version which is read by Sandi Toksvig. Very enjoyable and funny. I suspect that most of the entertainment value is in her can not help but be amused by her dry and witty social observations. I'm not sure I would appreciate it in the same way if I were reading the book. I highly recommend the audio book version, each chapter is like a Radio episode. (less)

  • Zackr
    2019-05-17 14:24

    The book's content was really helpful and in fact, quite amazing. However, the narrator's voice was so overly dramatized throughout the entire book that I couldn't hear with good comprehension even at 1.5x the speed. Excessive dramatization of the voice made the whole experience overly annoying. Seems like a great book to read but not worth it if you're going to listen to it.

    2019-05-17 06:34

    How to get along with your fellow human beingsThis book is an enjoyable exploration of the dos and don't s of daily life, well explained in clear terms that everyone should be able to understand. The trick is to remember them and put them into practice. This book is well worth reading and learning from.

  • Menna
    2019-05-23 08:19

    In someone else's hands, this would have been a drab and condescending manual but Toksvig really does make you want to read on: not just because of her wit and humour but because of the anecdotes and etymology that the book is littered with. A pick up, put down browsable book but, boy, do you get caught up in it.

  • Bill
    2019-05-18 11:36

    This is a mixture of sound advice about manners concerned with everything from womb to tomb and beyond. It would be fairly dull if it were not interspersed with Sandi's humorous comments and frequent quotations from historical sources. I enjoyed reading it and might even refer back to it for occasional advice.

  • Choopie
    2019-05-23 09:15

    Put simply : "Mahabharata of Hinduism declares, ‘This is the sum of duty; do naught unto others what would cause pain if done to you’, while the Jewish Talmud instructs ‘What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellowman. This is the entire Law; all the rest is commentary’ and the Christian Bible follows on with ‘Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself"

  • Hanna
    2019-05-02 13:23

    Thought I might achieve some advise as to how you might react in awkward situations and such but throughout it was a list of (what ought to be at least) instinctive reactions, and if not this posh manners of which I have no interest for. What was slightly interesting was the historical facts. Wouldn't recommend

  • Nikki Chee
    2019-04-23 13:15

    Sandi is smart and hilarious, but I couldn't personally quite find a place of interest for her no nonsense book. Perhaps I will pick it up again when it's more relevant to where I am, or pass it on to someone who could benefit from its reading.

  • Shanna
    2019-05-18 07:30

    A fun instructive on proper behavior. History and some fun quotes from myriad sources make this book more than just a "how to" on manners.

  • Natasha (Diarist) Holme
    2019-05-01 13:28

    Fairly amusing. But I cannot agree with Sandi that women should refrain from breast-feeding in public.

  • Deirdre
    2019-05-18 06:15

    Ì found this entertaining, light funny and made me think again about some unthinking habits.

  • Stephanie Mortimore
    2019-05-12 13:34

    Light and entertaining in parts - I enjoyed the anecdotes especially if I imagined Sandi retelling them

  • Blue Mountains Library
    2019-04-23 12:37

    a cute little book on how to behave in Sandi Toksvig’s amusing style. I was going to use some quotes as I read it but have returned it to the library without making note of themH.C

  • Katherine
    2019-05-16 14:30

    I don't agree with everything but the anecdotes and writing style are certainly entertaining.Plus, there's a healthy dose of Latin and etymology, which appeal to me

  • Caroline Magill
    2019-04-26 07:18

    An easy going, fun read.

  • Andrew
    2019-05-11 13:27

    Disappointing. All seemed pretty obvious and common sense.

  • Bev Newman
    2019-04-25 12:25

    A sort of "Sophie's World" but the subject is manners and etiquette rather than philosophy. Toksvig on great form. Read it.

  • Lorraine
    2019-05-24 11:30

    a delight of a book loved all the historical references well written and full of her recognisable humour

  • Ines
    2019-05-21 10:13